BUILDING RESILIENCE IN UNCERTAIN TIMES

Resilience in uncertain times. WHAT IT IS NOT: never getting stuck never doubting never fearing never messing up messing up and then self-loathing always knowing the next steps forging ahead no matter the cost just trying harder WHAT IT IS: showing up as you are...

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FALLING APART AND TOGETHER

I'm not interested in "How not to fall apart". I'm interested in exploring the ways in which we are all in a constant state of falling apart and then falling back together. Of coming and going. Of building and breaking. Of moving in parallel and yet crashing into one...

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THE LIE OF “JUST” BEING YOURSELF

"Just be yourself" As if it's that easy. There's a reason it isn't easy. There's a reason people struggle with "just" being themselves. It's because "just be yourself" is a convenient lie told to keep us confused and distracted in a world where we are conditioned to...

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THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS A NEGATIVE EMOTION

Newsflash! There's no such thing as a negative emotion! Emotions are emotions. They don't become bad or negative just because someone labels them so. Don't believe anyone (including yourself!) who tells you happiness is better than sadness. That your anger is...

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THE WAY YOU LIKE TO MOVE

I wrote this thing about how I was told that none of the boys wanted to dance with me because I danced “too weird”. It came out kind of funny, but there’s something underneath the funnies that I want to address. TONS of women don’t like to dance, especially not in a...

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NOT SORRY

Try this new thing I'm loving. Instead of saying "sorry-not-sorry," just say: NOT SORRY. What are we apologizing for? Because if it's being too much of something (too loud, too verbose, too emotional, too sensitive, too direct, too tired, taking up too much space,...

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IT’S NOT ALL EITHER OR

Thinking in binary might feel easier or more convenient... ...But it doesn't serve us as complex beings with a broad spectrum of emotions and an extensive capacity for understanding. Happy/Sad Good/Bad Good/Evil Slut/Prude Positive/Negative Masculine/Feminine These...

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SOME THINGS TO SAY INSTEAD

Someone you care about is upset. They're showing you their big feelings and it's making you uncomfortable. You want to make them feel better and help them solve their problems. That's really nice. And I'm sure your intentions are honourable. But first things first,...

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WHAT PREGNANCY IS TEACHING ME ABOUT SOFTENING

As of yesterday, I’ve been carrying around a little human inside me for 34 weeks. To say the past 8 months has been an adventure would be an understatement. I’ve always been one of those people to impulsively jump into things. I tend to have an optimistic outlook on...

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