FLY AWAY

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What’s on my mind? Oh not much, just thinking bout how we construct an image of ourselves to portray outwardly and then we perform this image. Just thinking about the pressure to perform and where that comes from. Just thinking about where value comes from when we’re not beautiful in the way they tell us […]

ESSENTIAL CONVERSATIONS HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO SET OFF ANGER

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“I’m inclined to embrace fury not just in an academic setting, but in a conversation in general. And any essential conversation, I think, probably has the potential to set off some anger.”                             -Eula Biss on talking about whiteness (interview and transcript here) […]

INSPIRATION FOR BEING A BADASS

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I was feeling particularly non-badass today and I needed some inspiration, so I channeled Trinity from the Matrix. Here’s what I did in case you want to replicate. 1) I put on all the black clothes I have that aren’t covered in baby snot. Yes, I am aware my shirt is grey. Close enough! 2) […]

WHAT I’M GIVING MYSELF FOR MY BIRTHDAY

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I’m giving myself these gifts for my birthday: 1) Permission to be a never ending work in progress. To be unfinished. Unpolished. To develop in my own way at my own pace. 2) Casting aside the notions of laziness and that time can be wasted 3) Consistent reminders to come back home to curiosity Feel […]

WHEN THE TRUTH ISN’T “POSITIVE”

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The truth is, it’s not always easy and nothing is under control. There are lots of parts of life and work and relationships and motherhood that I don’t love. And yes, lots of people feel that way. I’m not alone and you’re not alone and we’re not alone. It’s frustrating that there’s such an intense […]

FOR THE AFTERWARD, AND CONFUSING FEELINGS

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In the afterward, following a big event or a bunch of things accomplished, I’ve come to expect the down that often accompanies the build-up. It can be such an odd, lonely time. Like a multi-day emotional hangover while everyone else seems to be marching forward and onto the next big thing. When I’m feeling particularly […]

THE VALUE OF THE CAREGIVER

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Women are the default caregivers of the world. We put in countless hours of unpaid physical and emotional labour, without which, the family and the economy would collapse. So how do we make our way to loving ourselves if we don’t value ourselves? And how do we make our way to valuing ourselves in a […]